Friday, June 29, 2007

Stripes, lesbians and heroin wee!

I am now more confused than ever on the chair selection. Not only did many of you bring up some good points, a lot of them were ones I hadn't considered. Like how much the fabric will show spit-up. ... Right.

The bottom line is, there are no baby furniture stores in this area and none of the traditional furniture stores carry plush rockers like that, so ordering online is out of necessity. In the rolling mountains of central Pennsylvania and surrounding area commonly referred to as Amish country, I don't have the luxury of trying them out. Plus, both chairs take awhile to ship, so we need to purchase within the next month or so, not to mention the looming possibility that the sale on the one product will end without warning.

So, rather than make an outright decision, I've decided to select the bedding, THEN pick the chair and ottoman that matches best, THEN the wall color. I found a few kick-ass crib combos (again online because no local stores carry anything) that I think Jerry will not only approve of, but heave a big sigh of relief that I don't want the nursery to look like I blew up a gigantic doily filled with pink tulle and toile. A girl's gotta have some spunk, ya know? Even at three weeks old.

Speaking of pushing my preconceived ideals onto my unborn baby, I knew parenting would come with a lot of criticism, but I never realized quite how much. This is by no means return criticism of those who comment, in fact, I'd much rather spark a debate and get a little negative reaction once in awhile than start screening what people have to say or receive no comments at all. Part of the appeal of this online community for me is hearing what others think -- good and bad.

But since when am I not accepting of my daughter possibly being a lesbian just because I make the general observation that 99 percent of girls between the ages of 12 and 15 have a cell phone attached to their head at all times? I know because I see it when I'm at the mall, at the gas station, at the movies ... besides, last time I checked in with the gay community, they use modern communication devices, too.

Yes, I know it's horrible of me to already have ideas about a general path in life that I would like my child to take. Call me, well, a soon-to-be parent, but I'd prefer to guide her toward smart decisions, make healthy life choices and grow up to be a productive member of society. That does not include things like sexual orientation, music taste or what color her hair is. But if she brings home someone who, oh, injects heroin into their veins -- boy or girl -- I'll be the first to make a snap judgement. Well, maybe second. It's a definite possibility that Jerry would beat me to it.

So, in closing, thank you very much for all of the chair suggestions. I had no idea people felt so strongly about stripes. It apparently goes way beyond "like" and "dislike" to "worship" and "abhor." You have shown me that the general population is as polarized over stripes as we are with our political parties. Yes, stripes would have to wage a hard presidential campaign if they wanted to sit in the Oval Office. Without a doubt, it would get ugly.

And, in closing closing, I heart lesbians. That is all.

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At the risk of sparking another raging debate about polka dots,
here are two of the bedding patterns I've completely fallen in love with:

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I love, nay, worship this green and pink combo.


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Does this not make you want to crawl in and take a nap if you'd fit?

Thoughts?

63 comments:

julie said...

You friggin rock, Kelly.

You making a trip north to see family anytime soon? Cuz I know there's baby furniture stores where you're from, since I'm from there too.

Either way, I hope you enjoy whichever chair you decide on, stripes or no stripes.

tossedrice said...

no. 1!! it's the best of both worlds. it's spunky but it also has the adorable polka dot sheet set. plus, that green rocker would be awesome in the nursery!!

julie/aahcoffee said...

I like choice number 2. I was telling my sister about how you had posted pictures of the different chairs you were considering and how you got a gazillion different opinions on the matter. LOL. I told her you would just go with what you wanted.

Kimber said...

I like both of those crib sets too. And the first would look good with the solid chairs, while the second would look good with the stripes. :) So many choices!

I have no children but hope to someday, and I think it would be counterintuitive if not impossible to resist indulging in a fantasy or two about your soon to be little one at 10, 16, even 21. You're not outlining the path your daughter must take, you're showing an interest and excitement in walking that road with her--whatever direction it might veer. I think it would be more disconcerting if you didn't have any notions about the future.

Emily said...

I didn't get in on the chair debate yesterday, but..

I heart polka dots.

We got our bedding from PBK, too, but only because it was on clearance! :) I just love their stuff.

And don't worry, we didn't get to "try out" our glider before ordering, and we LOVE it.

Anonymous said...

If you're in/near Amish country, surely there are some fantastic Amish furniture makers nearby, no? The Amish are known for their woodworking and crafting gorgeous pieces of furniture.

You probably won't find these places online or in the Yellow Pages, but by word of mouth. Best to ask around to find these types of place!

Just a thought!

Ashley said...

I missed the chair debate yesterday, but I'll go ahead and add my 2c for that as well:
First off, do people not READ that the ottoman isn't pictured in the striped ones? So...if they had an objection because (striped color) had no ottoman, maybe keep that in mind.
That said, I like the green chairs. Although I like the striped green more, I have the feeling the solid would be of better quality if it's half off and yet the same price as the striped.

For the bedding, I like the first one. If you go ahead and get the green chair, it would be great to incorporate the green to the bed in a bolder way. The sheet set on the 2nd one(not the bumpers or blankets, but the sheet itself) looks like some confetti threw up on it, and for some reason that really bothers me.

Anonymous said...

Love, love, love the first one.

On another note the person that left the comment "Do your kid a favor now blah blah blah..." clearly has their own issues to work through.
have fun and enjoy yourselves!

Anonymous said...

I love both patterns, they both make me want to crawl in and take a nap. (I have also been up since six am...so i think everything would, but those are both insanely adorable.)

I think you are going to be a very open minded, good parent and will smack anyone who says otherwise. I heart lesbians also.

--Sarah

kimiedawn said...

I like the first one best. The second one would get way to dirty and shoe too many stains. Not only do they spit up, BUT they do go through their diapers on occasion. Yeah I know, you really wanted to know that one!

kristin said...

I think I need to read the comments more closely....

I vote #1 definitely. I don't worship it but I like it a really lot.

Ashley said...

Number 1. Not crazy about the second one. I like the polka dots and pink/green combo. The pattern is okay for a teen too. Wouldnt it be cute if she could use it even after she outgrows the crib? My baby blanket has polka dots on it too and I still use it as a 'couch blanket' in my 20s!

Laura said...

i prefer the second one, but I am not a 'bold crazy pattern' person by nature. If you worship it, go for it.

Oh, and its also in your right to tell people to go to hell.

Keri said...

Choice number 2.

Marsha said...

I like the first one the best. I"d sleep in it.
You so rock, or you will if you find a chair..hee-hee couldn't resist.

Tanya said...

Well, if she's a lesbian, she'll have her legs over the arm of the chair text messaging her friends!

Yes, I know this is a generalization, but all of my lesbian friends (and I have quite a few) are part of the text-messaging-mafia!

And I love the first option for the bedding. LOVE IT.

Anonymous said...

I love the first one. Fitting for straight or gay babies ;-)

I really was lost when I read that comment. Kids talk on the phone. boys AND girls but I never knew lesbians avoided the phone.

Some people are just weird. And I can't sign in "other" but I'm jerseygirl2255 from xanga.

Wendy said...

I like the quilted one (the first one). It has a variety of pinks and greens, which might make the other selections a bit more easy. Whatever is decided, I know it will be fabulous!

Leah said...

I really hate to say this, but it all depends on the chair! You can't have the entire bedding in polka dots while the chair is stripped.

I really like the solid pink chair. If you're worried about having too much pink in the room, paint the walls a different shade of pink and maybe paint one wall the light green color pictured with bedding #1.

I don't like the 'quilt' look of bedding #1, but do really like the polka dot sheets. In my opinion, bedding #2 looks more up to date. I'd go with that one, for sure.

Anonymous said...

Love the bedding in number 1, also love that wall color! We have it as two "accent walls" in our livingroom.

its_just_ang from Xanga said...

Love both of those! I do think, however, that the solid chairs would go better with both of those. They're really cute!

Heidi said...

I like the first one, and love the green wall colour in the background. THAT looks like a prize combo right there, and would look great with either of the striped chairs in it (particularly the green one).

julie said...

Ok, since the pictures weren't posted yet as of my first comment, I'm commenting again.

I like the first bed set better. It's more vibrant, plus, look at the walls in that picture! You could do that pale, pale green pain on the walls, and get the pink chair, and it'll all pull together so nice!!! Oh, pretty!! Or vice versa and do pink walls with the green chair. I'm seeing the room coming together now!! I love it. Now that I see the bedding you like, I like the solid chairs better.

Anonymous said...

I really really like the first one, especially if you're still considering the pink/green color scheme.

On the other hand, the polka dots aren't so wham-bam with the color. I'd do the polka dots for a classic, clean feel.

Either or, though, your little girl will be lucky. I don't know that any parent I know has put so much effort into picking bedding. Or a chair.

Marina said...

I definitely love the polka dot one. And I think that would be really easy to match, since it's got all different colors on it. Good choices indeed.

Suzy said...

I love both of them, esp the first one...which would look awesome with the solid green chair! hint hint! :)
Some Amish furniture is really cool...I've never seen a plush rocker, but might not hurt to check out the inventory.

julie said...

oops. that was supposed to be "green paint" not "green pain"...

amy said...

OMG...you HAVE to go with POLKA DOTS!!! Notice all the capital letters. Yes, that's how strongly I feel how about the polka dots!! :-)

gora_kagaz said...

ooh...pretty. i like the first one better, too, but the second one looks like it would be more fitting for an infant. not to say the first one isn't, though. the second on just looks so...soft and inviting. the first one does have polka dots as well, though.

Chelsea said...

Both are so cutee! I love the second one, but white + baby piss/ throw up is not so good! Does it come in any other colors?

tossedrice said...

i love ashley's comment "confetti threw up on it!!" it's hilarious, but i have to agree that it's true. :)

Anonymous said...

#2. It would match more colors incase you decided not to paint the walls pink.

Anonymous said...

and when baby comes along, not much of this will matter. Believe me the baby will not care and you won't have so much time to worry about this stuff. It's just stuff. I think I know you well enough to know that you will spend all your efforts being a good mom. None of our kids have ever said "thanks for the new bike" but they have said 'the best holiday was camping because we were all together.

darcy

leslie said...

Choice No. 1 on the bedding and the limey-green chair (choice No. 2) from yesterday would be SO cute together.

melinda hale said...

Both sheet sets are darling - can hardly go wrong.

From a practical standpoint, the quilted one will take a lot of rough wear (or lots of love, if you look at it that way) and still look good. In fact, in my opinion quilts look better a little worn in.

I like your approach with the decision making - conquer one thing at a time!

Rachel said...

I really like the first bedding set. I think that it would be a lot of fun. Plus, it won't show as many of the stains as the second choice. I've seen a lot of cute baby stuff that after awhile just looks extremely gross, b/c of all the extremes a baby can put it though. I'm not sure, but it looked like there might have been some brown polka dots on the sheet of #1, that would even be a little extra cute splash of color. Not a lot b/c you want it to be a babies room, but it could be cute, even something as little as your brown teddy bears or something. Pink, Green and Brown together are very fun. Good Luck. I bet you never thought that you would get so many opinions about your baby's nursery.

melinda hale said...

Also meant to mention that my baby rocker was Amish made (rocks, glides, ottoman, the whole bit), and it has the best workmanship of any of my furniture. Worth the bit extra you spend for the quality.

pauline said...

The first bedding set is the one my sister almost picked. She loved, loved it. The only reason she didn't go with it was because her color's ended up being lavender and green. It was the perfect texture, color, and everything in the store. Perfection. And yeah, she is devoted to Pottery Barn.

Janice said...

I was all for the first bedding in a way that meant I wasn't changing my mind for the world--but then I saw the second one...tranquil, serene, all of the above. It makes you want to just snuggle up and take a nice nap... and that's just the fabric. I really really love that one and since there is a lot of white it would not overwhelm the room. The first is also great too though.

the green plainsman said...

Oh man! Oh Kelly! I thought we were picking a chair color and was a bit surprized today. I guess we should pick a clear colorless room decor and let the little one decide when she (99.44% sure) or he (0.66% sure) arrives. Since I was early commenting yesterday, about 5th or 6th, I had no idea of the controversy that developed! A day later, I'm still 100% in the green category, but now about 50/50 stripe or solid, with solid growing.

I bet green would be more comfortable for when Jerry does the 3:00 AM feeding, eh? Plus, yeah, when the little one grows out of the pink stuff, green will still be in. Do the ottomans have a hiding place for stuff? Us kids love that! You have a good idea, though, think of the rest of the room too.

Anonymous said...

Pick the softest one, the one you'd want to snuggle up with the most.. I vote for number 1!

Frank the Tank said...

i like the green stripped chair and the second bedding set. not sure why. i personally give my hamster lee roy ann old muffler from my 1985 chevette. thats right, i have a vette. i think its an 85? not sure. its light green and i have dice hanging on the rear view mirror. i shop at big k because i cant afford target. i met a man there yesterday, and yes, i am a man as well, i'm gay. so that person who wrote the message about a lezzie daughter is a anti lezzie. i think you will have a cool daughter. have you thought of any names? here are my top five suggestions.

1. Shitter Mcgavin
2. Amodayos Charline
3. Tameeka Sha-nay-nay
4. Rosie Odonnella
5. Pepsi Kandi

Jerry Rocked My World said...

i think your husband is the cats pajamas.

Grace said...

lol, i didn't have a chance to read your entry yesterday, so when i came across it today and the title had the word lesbians in it, i thought it was going to be about some encounter with another neighbour who had to tell u about their sex life or something lol..

i'm very surprised that picking out colours for chairs led to that debacle, all i can say is WHAT THE???

anyway, i think we have different tastes because altho i love the chairs, and think whatever u choose would be great, i'm not so satisfied with the bedding. the first one to me, is a bit too loud and the rectangles and squares seem like blast into the past, and sorta give me a headache.. the second one i feel the colours are too soft and sorta remind me of a birthday party for some reason... nevertheless this is just my opinion, i see what you can do with renovating your houes so in the end it'll probably turn out gorgeous anyway :)

Mia said...

I love the second bedding set! But the first one is really cool too.
So I'm no help, but I absolutely love them both.
But I have a thing for polka dot sheets right now (I'm planning to get some this summer, haha), so I'd choose that.
And besides, it's not overwhelmingly pink, which might make jerry happy, haha

Emilee said...

I like the first set of bedding, but I have more of a bold, funky type of style.

Bekah said...

Politically correct people turn nothing into craziness. Just ignore em. :)


I love the first blanket at first glance, but the second is sooo cute and peaceful and... fine I love it more. I'd go with it but either is okay.

Anonymous said...

I heart the rectangles! Bright colors are just me, though.

Anonymous said...

I really don't get where the lesbian comments came from yesterday. I know gay men and women and BOTH liked to talk on the phone and gossip in their teens and still to date 20 years later. And as shocking as some of the cranky people on here may think lesbians often LOVE the color pink.
I love the polka dot sheets. It is the cutest thing I have seen in a long time.

Anonymous said...

I like #1, but then again I am really into quilts.

Laura Y.

Sheryl said...

I looked at choice one and thought, "Oh! A modified log cabin pattern! How wonderful." And then I saw choice 2---I love fun polka dots (as long as I'm not wearing them!). My guess is you'll be happy with whatever you choose. Have fun! And remember . . . only the pictures will last close to forever---the rest can be changed!

Anonymous said...

love the green and pink squares! would go awesome with the solid green rocker!

Ray said...

I love BOTH of the beddings I can't really decide whichever one you choose will rock. But hell with it I'll go for option #2. I love the fact that you can get your baby girl's name personalized on the bedding that's too cute. Speaking of your little ladies name what names have you and Jerry come up with? And please don't tell me Hooker! Hehe. I had to throw that in.

And I agree lesbian or not people in the gay community do have cellphones!! Goodness people are touchy. But who I am to say such things I'm touchy too, when it comes to a lot of things.

ANYWHO, Take care Kelly.

Anonymous said...

if you got a sec...take a look at my comment from yesterday
loffe you

Ray said...

P.S. If you want more options for bedding sets, go here:

http://www.target.com/gp/browse.html/ref=sc_fe_l_2_3666441_2/601-7830096-7269754?
ie=UTF8&node=13794711

They have four pages of different bedding collections. When you click on the bedding that you like you can scroll down and look at other matching items, which is nice because they find it for you, instead of you looking around.

If Pennsylvania doesn't have any stores you should take a trip to New York. Or search the web for New York baby boutiques and you'll bound to find everything you need for the nursery.

Ray said...

THIS IS MY LAST COMMENT I PROMISE: I just realized something.

I mean I know you're a first time mother and all, and if I were you I'd be going crazy trying to make the best nursery ever. BUT, don't go too crazy over what bedding to get.

I mean especially the "bedding" because as girls we like to change things up a bit A LOT and you'll probably end up buying tons of different bedding themes as time goes by. And you'll probably want to change it soon. For example: once she's a couple of months older, to a year older to even two years. Well that's if you decide she's too big for a bed, which I wouldn't and then you want to move her to a big kid's bed which is a totally different thing. But you get my point. Your ideas will change. So don't go too hard on yourself.

That's all. I've said my peace and I'm off for today. ;o)

Melle said...

I like the stripey one.

mundanejane said...

I love the pink chair! I love the pink quilt(the first one)! They are a match made in Heaven. Your little girl is going to be so lucky.

the "brilliant" plainsman said...

I forgot to comment on the designs. I would go for the first. It is more visually stimulating for the little one, dots are nice but boring. From my earliest days, I can always remember being intrigued, tracing line patterns with my eyes or fingers if I could reach them! So yup, your baby will be smarter by 3 or 4 percent with the striped pattern! Add that to the extra 3 or 4 percent they get for being first born and that girl "gonna be" Harvard or Stamford bound!

Anonymous said...

No. 1!!!!!!!!!!!

Emmy said...

oh! that's so plush and pretty! you certainly have great taste in patterns, colors and fabrics!

Tiffany said...

I totally LOVE the polka dots. It's so cute!!!!

Anonymous said...

Not that crazy about either of them, to be entirely honest.
Sorry!

The first one looks like an old kitchen towel to me. The second one is a little better but kind of bland.

But if I had to chose between the two, I'd choose number 2. Too bad you can't get the blanket sheet set the same pattern as the mattress in picture number 2, with all the tiny little flowers. Now that would be adorable.

But, you are stylish whereas I'm not, so I'm sure any decision you make will be a hundred million times better than mine.