Saturday, December 1, 2007

Bound to happen eventually

Last night was horrible. I tried, very unsuccessfully, to get her to sleep for six hours. By 3 a.m., I didn't know what to do and just started sobbing uncontrollably. I had been alone with her for most of the day and it had taken its toll.

I'm not sure if she sensed my distress and decided to cooperate, or maybe the sound of my spirit breaking soothed her, but she finally stopped screaming her face red and went to sleep.

This morning I'm still exhausted and drained, but just the sight of her makes me smile.

Babies are damn lucky they're so cute.

39 comments:

Anonymous said...

I remember many nights crying right along with them. Hang in there.

Mooseluver24 said...

I hope that things get easier! I hear that those first few weeks are the worst!

Anonymous said...

I have some tips that worked for my mom if you don't know them already. Apparently I was quite the screamer myself.

She said humming while pressed against her skin to skin really soothed me. But it wasn't musical humming. It was (bear with me as it's hard to try to imitate on the internet), "aw aw aw aw bee" while patting my bum. Putting me on the drier on low also did wonders apparently.

Sincerely, you sound like you're doing an amazing job already. Congratulations to you and your family.

http://www.xanga.com/bronxbombette said...

Don't worry, you'll be a pro soon!

Epros said...

You know, I was a quiet baby who just slept all of the time and could do no wrong. Then I apparently turned into a little monster, according to my mom. Hopefully Alli will prove to be the opposite of me. :P

Sheryl said...

I remember my oldest nephew doing that when he was about two weeks old. It was frustrating but he only did it a few times. May Alli only do it once! Hang in there!

Janice said...

They really are adorable. I guess there will be plenty of those nights from what I heard, but it will only get easier as time progresses.

sarahhhh said...

i remember reading once someone who found that using a blow dryer was the only way that they could put their baby to sleep. i'm not sure how she did it but probably turned it on around the corner from them or something. i think she said it took the vacuum a few times too. try it out when you've absolutely had enough. she said it works like a charm.

Ray from Xanga said...

Awww, I'm so sorry to hear that! But I'm glad that she finally caught on to your distress and went to sleep.

Take, care.

Silverwolf said...

Sooooo glad it's you and not me. :) I have no patience with kids. I hear it's "different" when they're your own. But well, I'm not going to try to prove them wrong anytime soon. :D Good luck, and hang in there!

aahcoffee said...

I did the same thing. I'll tell you what everyone else told me at the time.....it will pass, you will one day sleep again, you can make it through this. Hugs!

Erica said...

There is a book called "Happiest Baby on the Block" I really recommend it. I bought it, and it never failed to disappoint me when my son was never able to be soothed. You can get it at any major book store.

Celcia from Xanga said...

I found that after a non stop crying jag at 3 am, it was time to break my resolve & give into the pacifier. Suddenly it was quiet & Garrett went to sleep. We found that Binky Makes it Better.

plainsman can't figure out new post system new system said...

Liked that line ...she heard "the sound of my spirit breaking...and went to sleep." Yes, her "work" for the night was done!

It probably will not be the last time you are up all night and be reduced to tears as I hear that is part of the dues in being a mom or parent. At any age.

But the rewards...like the sight of her...are truly priceless.

Anonymous said...

Ahh I remember those days. There were many sleepless nights in this household. Fortunately, my son liked the baby swing and car rides.

ChaosMoon from xanga said...

Yeah, I'm already picturing that happening with me. I don't deal well with sleep deprivation. I'm gonna be a crying mess those first couple weeks-months-years.

((hugs))

Ashley said...

Water beds, dryers, car rides, and those vibrating bouncing chairs. Lifesavers.



http://store.babycenter.com/product/gear/activity+equipment/bouncers/newborn-to-toddler+portable+rocker.do?asc=false

Bitchy Mom said...

Hang in there! It only lasts for a couple weeks... maybe a month.

Just remember, when you don't think you can stand it another minute... "It's just a stage."

Appreciate each stage because time flies by so fast... Trust me.

I know the long nights are hard. By the end of the first 2 weeks, I wanted to kill myself.

This too shall pass!

Lots of hugs and love to you babe! :-)

Erica said...

Oh, and I'm sure someone is going to leave a comment saying the same thing, but babies sure can sense how you're feeling. The best thing to do is just comfort the baby as much as possible no matter how long it takes... Good luck though! Like I said, just buy that book! Happiest Baby on the Block.

Trish said...

Aww I feel your pain. It's most likely a common touch of post partum depression. We all get it.
Crying is good for ya once in a while. It will get better.

fiona said...

My daughter is the only person that can scream and cry in my face for two hours, but I STILL miss her the second I put her down to sleep.

Anonymous said...

my mom told me once that when i was a baby, and there seemed to be nothing she could do to console me, she would sing randy travis' "i'm gonna love you forever..." and more often than not, she would end up singing both of us to sleep

Tennille from xanga said...

I'm so glad all of these moms are saying it'll only last a few weeks. For a moments I was terrified for you lol

mercurial scribe said...

My Dad used to glare at me when my little brother would scream inconsolably and say "God made you kids so cute so we wouldn't eat you like they do in the wild."

!!!

However, when I told my Mom about this post she said that there are nights you will just cry along with the kid out of fatigue and confusion. Hang in there, love, you're doing really well despite how tired/frustrated you may feel.

Shalini said...

Yes they are so lucky they are cute... even when they are 2!

Rachel said...

My little one did that for about 5 weeks. Then it suddenly got better. We always told her she was lucky she was cute...
I second the recommendation of Happiest Baby on the Block. There is a DVD as well, which I got at the library. It tells you to swaddle super tight, hold her on her side, bounce her, and keep repeating shhhh loudly. I also found that patting her butt soothes her. I hope things get better soon!
(Rachel)

Amy said...

Loads of people seem to be giving advice and I don't know if you've heard these but I was told that hair dryers and vacumes helped.

Apparently it sounds a bit like the inside of the womb which comforts the baby. Hope something works for you, it'll get better and atleast you get her to yourself

Traci said...

There's nothing wrong with crying! It's an important stress reliver...maybe she sensed you release and that soothed her?

Do you guys swaddle? We bought a kiddopatamus swaddler (Babies R Us) and it has been AWESOME for my son. It holds him tight and he sleeps so much longer wrapped up in it.

You never know, though. You'll just have to practice and find what works for Allison! Good luck and hope you get lots of catch up sleep.

Anonymous said...

You have no idea. Luckily falling for their infant cuteness routine also keeps you from killing them in about, oh, 14-17 years or so.

Lioncloud said...

Sometimes you just have to accept the fact that there's nothing you are doing "wrong" _and_ that there's nothing that will comfort her. She just has to work through whatever it is that's bothering her. Just check the basics (wet, dirty, hungry, cold, hot?), and if nothing obvious is amiss, she just may need to let it rip for a while. Crying won't hurt her.

Emmy said...

gosh, kelly! this post had me snorting, smiling and remembering when my kids were newborns. it's all very true what you just said. you nailed it perfectly. <3

jsi said...

Merry Christmas
I do believe a baby's adorability is a protective mechanism, placed there intentionally for such occasions as you discuss. Raising babies is a very fulfilling and yet wet undertaking.
And not all the tears are from the baby in your arms.
With diapers, breastfeeding, midnight wakefulness, crying from the bassinet and crying in the rocking chair, you are meeting liquid left, right and center.
Things sound a little squishy this weekend.
Avoid your mascara right now, or make sure its water-proof, 'cause those happier-than-I've-ever-been tears mix in with those I-can't-remember-the-last-time-I-slept tears.
Try not to evaluate your success as a mom by how well you can coax her to sleep - she is so in charge of it its scary. When they flip their days and nights, and are more like a vampire (wide awake and interacting at night) than a human, it can be beyond frustrating. She may simply be ready to enter into a growth spurt and is preparing your milk for a more demanding feeding schedule. Who knows?!.
I got alot of laundry completed in the 2 a.m. time simply because the car seat on the dryer solved the night crying we encountered.
It can't last for very long - it sure must tire her out too!

Anonymous said...

Hey Kelly,

My sister has a child and another one the way. I have read some of the other comments, and I want to state that the vacuum thing actually works. It may not work for such a young baby, but my sister said it worked wonders for her when her child was a toddler. Turn the vacuum on in the other room. I believe the drone of a vacuum is constant and boring to a child, so off to sleep it goes! I hope it works!

KLC said...

I could have written this post myself. Being a mom is tough but it's so worth it!

Anonymous said...

I have heard of the Amby baby bed.

I am considering purchasing one when we have children because this, what you've just described, scares the crap out of me.

i love to sleep, yo.

Jen said...

I remember those nights vividly. Terrible, just terrible. It makes you understand how someone could just snap on their child doesn't it? Not that you or I ever would do something like that (Not in a million years!!)... BUT you can at least understand the level of frustration that it brings a person to, and some people can't handle it.

Keep up the good work. i wish I could promise you a night filled with sleep soon... but that's a ways off for you. Make sure you have Jerry help out as much as possible so you don't get burned out.

Kristin said...

I think a breakdown or two is definitley allowed. It's a big change - having a baby. But I think you are doing a terrific job. And she really is the sweetest thing.

Erin in Scranton said...

Allegedly, my mother and father would drive me and my brother around in the car late at night when we wouldn't sleep. They'd just pop us in the carseat and go for a drive.

The solution raises some questions that were never sufficiently answered, though: What if they fell asleep while driving? Would getting us out of the carseat and up the stairs wake us up?

So I don't buy it. But definitely know you're not alone.

Jessica said...

Shortly before I read this post I had just been reading one from my own archives. It was a post from last December when my baby was just a month old - I totally feel you're pain!

http://legaladdictivestimulants.blogspot.com/2006/12/good-bad.html